Love Without Support

Loving someone deeply, especially family, can be one of the hardest things when you don’t feel that love reflected in the ways you truly need it. I have a family member who I love with all my heart. They’ve always been there for me in certain ways—especially when it comes to money. If I need something, they’ll help. But truthfully? What I need from them isn’t in their wallet.

I need their support. I need their belief in me. I need them to see my vision, or at least respect it. And it hurts when they don’t.

Surface-Level Love

Lately, our relationship feels like it’s stuck on the surface. We talk, we laugh sometimes, but I can’t go deeper. Every time I try to share my dreams, my purpose, the things that matter to me—it’s like I hit a wall. I see it in their face, hear it in their silence, feel it in their body language. They don’t get it. Or maybe they don’t want to.

And that’s the part that stings. Because I’m not looking for money—I’m looking for connection. For someone to say, “I see you. I believe in you. I’m proud of you.” But instead, I get questioned. Judged. Told what I should do, how I should live, like they’ve already decided I’m not making the right moves.

Love That Feels One-Sided

It’s hard when love starts to feel one-sided. When you keep showing up for someone emotionally, but they won’t meet you there. When your wins don’t excite them, and your struggles don’t move them. When all they offer is advice you didn’t ask for, instead of the encouragement you’re craving.

I’ve had to accept that just because someone loves me, doesn’t mean they know how to love me.

And the truth is, I’ve grieved over that. I’ve cried over that. I’ve prayed for change, prayed for understanding, but I’m learning that sometimes you have to stop trying to force people to fill a role they were never meant to.

I’m learning to let go of the idea that people will support me the way I want them to. Sometimes, they just can’t. And that doesn’t mean I stop loving them—but it does mean I stop expecting from them what they don’t have to give.

I can’t keep trying to pull something deeper from someone who only wants to stay shallow. I can’t keep hoping they’ll cheer for my dreams when they can’t even sit with my truth.

Letting go doesn’t mean I don’t care. It means I care enough about my peace, my purpose, and my growth to stop forcing what isn’t there.

And that’s okay. Because GOD will send people who will. People who will show up. People who will see the vision, feel the passion, and push me forward instead of holding me back. I don’t have to beg for support. I just have to trust that the right people will love me in the right way.

And until then, I’ll keep showing up for myself. I’ll keep trusting GOD with my dreams, because HE gave them to me, and HE won’t let them fail.

“Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken.” – Psalm 55:22 (NIV)

If someone you love doesn’t support your dreams, love them—but don’t lose yourself trying to make them understand. Surround yourself with people who uplift you, who see your purpose, and who remind you that you are enough, just as you are. Let GOD sustain you when people fall short.